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Leading with Empathy vs. Leading with Compassion

Being empathic is very draining emotionally. As the most overrated leadership skill, empathy causes inaction.

The most misunderstood buzzword in leadership training is “empathy.” Many speakers and authors exaggerate the concept without understanding how it affects behavior. They promote the idea that leaders must feel their followers’ pain to lead effectively.

Neuroscience research demonstrates that our brains respond to others’ pain in the same brain areas that react to our own pain. We have the capacity to be in others’ shoes, but we often don’t want to because it is exhausting and unpleasant. No one enjoys a painful experience.

Simply feeling another person’s pain does NOT lead to any meaningful action that helps those who suffer.

More often, feelings of empathy lead to inaction since we try to avoid discomfort whenever possible. For example, healthcare workers frequently encounter patients suffering while doing their jobs. That can often lead to burnout or emotional exhaustion. Empathy worsens emotional fatigue among medical professionals, according to research.

Specific training now aims at helping medical workers control their emotional reactions so they can focus better on their work and avoid burnout. By limiting personal feelings, they are better able to deliver compassionate care.

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Compassion Leads to Action

Compassion goes beyond simply noticing suffering to actively wanting to help. It involves a genuine wish for others to be free from pain and hardship. Compassionate actions aim to alleviate others’ distress. They could include offering emotional support, providing tangible assistance, or working to address the root causes of suffering.

Many people often use the words “compassion” and “empathy” interchangeably. However, they are fundamentally different.

Their differences don’t lie in semantics. Each has its unique underlying brain mechanism.

Brain imaging studies have found that empathy activates the brain’s pain network, leading to intense emotions and irrational decisions. In contrast, compassion turns on the brain’s reward network, resulting in relaxation and rational decisions. Using reason and logic to find solutions leads to helpful action.

Instead of allowing overwhelming emotions to paralyze us, we can seek feelings of reward through compassionate action.

Empathy is an automatic, emotional response that can have a mind-numbing impact on people. Compassion is the logical cure for that painful, infertile experience. Rather than following fads and falling for feel-good buzzwords, good leaders can develop skills to switch from feeling to action.

How to Cultivate Compassion

Compassion is rare in our fast-paced, individualist society. However, research shows that it is possible to foster compassion in the workplace and at home through intentional efforts.

Can Pain Medication Block Empathetic Responses?

Inside the brain, physical and emotional pains share a very similar mechanism. Painkillers can dull both types of pain.

A study showed that both opioid painkillers and Tylenol reduced feelings of empathy.

Those medications dull how we perceive other people’s suffering. The widespread use of painkillers makes empathy unrealistic.

Our brains have evolved to recognize and react to others’ struggles automatically. The question is whether those feelings are meaningful to those in need. As demonstrated by healthcare workers, feeling overwhelmed by patients’ distress can lead to work disruptions and burnout. A more effective response is to take action to relieve it.

With compassion, doctors or nurses understand their patients’ suffering.

They focus on what they can do to help. Genuine compassion leads to a positive emotional response. Seeking practical ways to help is more productive than simply stepping into someone else’s shoes.

Neuroscience Offers Insights into Emotional Reactions

Many common leadership principles are widely accepted even without any scientific evidence. Empathy is simply the brain’s emotional reaction to observations of misery in others. It seems like a solution to a difficult situation, but it isn’t. Understanding how and why empathy exists helps leaders find ways to examine that emotion and use it to discover solutions with clarity. That is the power of Neuroscience in leadership.

Dr. Terry Wu delivers original leadership training and debunks those “feel-good” fads.

He teaches leaders science-proven skills and strategies through his engaging speaking style and fascinating content. Visionary leaders are tired of generic, rah-rah stuff and seek solid solutions. They appreciate Dr. Wu’s ability to explain complex Neuroscience in a fun and inspiring style.

Howie Milstein Terry, you exemplify the power of slowing down, looking at scientific evidence, and basing our behaviors on rational thinking vs. following the subconscious brain. Thank you, as always, for helping me get control of the sometimes (often?) baloney that comes with simply being human, endowed with a brain that doesn’t always serve us or others most functionally. ~ Howie Milstein, Vistage Chair, Author, and CEO, The Institute of Stop Taking Yourself So Seriously
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